tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post2558144043050181108..comments2024-01-25T13:25:02.195+00:00Comments on Life Unexpected: CloseLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-68138569170437434302013-01-08T20:58:36.244+00:002013-01-08T20:58:36.244+00:00Thanks Rachel,
I agree, I did the right thing. I...Thanks Rachel, <br /><br />I agree, I did the right thing. It gave us chance to cool off and think about things. We are going to be setting aside more time to spend time together as a couple. <br /><br />Thanks again xxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-5976482841317260352013-01-08T20:57:34.606+00:002013-01-08T20:57:34.606+00:00Thanks lovely :) xxThanks lovely :) xxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-39039342279313558192013-01-08T20:57:21.112+00:002013-01-08T20:57:21.112+00:00Thanks Katie,
Things have cooled down and are well...Thanks Katie,<br />Things have cooled down and are well on the way back to normal. Only now we are planning on doing more things as a couple. We haven't done anything for just us in so long :)<br />xxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-23053414695013523452013-01-08T20:56:14.483+00:002013-01-08T20:56:14.483+00:00Thanks lovely, I really appreciate it :) xxThanks lovely, I really appreciate it :) xxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-12827777624429262472013-01-08T20:55:49.899+00:002013-01-08T20:55:49.899+00:00Thank you Lucy. It is reassuring to be told that I...Thank you Lucy. It is reassuring to be told that I did do the right thing. Of course I know Luke would never hurt Leo but the fact is he was scared. I can't have him scared. <br /><br />We have sat down and talked things through and realised that we certainly need to do more together as a couple. We haven't been and done anything for just us in so long.<br />xxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-49535245030424947842013-01-08T20:54:21.095+00:002013-01-08T20:54:21.095+00:00Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. ...Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I completely agree, after having a heart to heart we realised we don't go out and do things together anymore. We have vowed to do more as a couple and make more time for each other :)<br /><br />Thanks again xxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-51096478420026761622012-12-30T15:27:03.252+00:002012-12-30T15:27:03.252+00:00Oh gosh, how awful.
I do think you did the right ...Oh gosh, how awful.<br /><br />I do think you did the right thing removing yourself and Leo from that situation and I do hope things have calmed down.<br /><br />I also agree with previous posters, it is so important to make time as a couple and also to have your own private time to yourself, for you as Laura. Certainly D and I have resolved to ask my family to have H more overnight so we can have time together and to give each other a few hours to do our own thing every now and then.<br /><br />Toddlers are far more stressful than babies in my opinion and parenting is something you both have to be on the same page for.Mummy Glitzerhttp://www.mummyglitzer.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-58888772004978373602012-12-30T00:49:45.618+00:002012-12-30T00:49:45.618+00:00Hey lovely, Hope things are a bit better after you...Hey lovely, Hope things are a bit better after you have both had a chance to sleep on it. I am completely with you and will not tolerate that kind of behaviour in front of my son and I would have left as well.<br /><br />I know how difficult an unplanned pregnancy is and it doesn't always give you time to be ready to be a parent but like it or not that is what we are and Luke needs to decide exactly what kind of parent he wants to be. I agree with what the others have said though, sometimes making time as a couple can do wonders as I think the men feel left out when all our attention is on the children, and sometimes you both need to remember what it is that you love about each other as individuals. <br /><br />I hope you work it out x x xBex @ The Mummy Adventurehttp://themummyadventure.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-45841844365593307582012-12-29T13:46:28.792+00:002012-12-29T13:46:28.792+00:00Oh Laura what a difficult post to read. I hope yo...Oh Laura what a difficult post to read. I hope you are all ok now you have cooled down. Having children most certainly puts a strain on even the most perfect relationships, after all you have gone from a life where it was just the two of you, to having to completely think about another little person all of the time. It is hard to adjust.<br />Saying that he isn't ready to be a Dad, is a pointless thing to say, I agree with Lucy, as now he is one and it is up to him whether he wants to be a good one. I am sure that things will calm down but it definitely sounds like you need to have a long talk? Maybe your family could have Leo for the evening and you could go out for some dinner? One night out won't solve things but it may help you have a talk out of stressful surroundings.<br />Whatever happens, you sound like you are the best Mum to Leo and thats the most important thing in the world. xKatie @mummydaddymehttp://www.mummydaddyandmemakesthree.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-65318850845991947322012-12-29T09:12:24.206+00:002012-12-29T09:12:24.206+00:00Oh hunny hugs. This sounds a lot like Mr.L is some...Oh hunny hugs. This sounds a lot like Mr.L is some instances. He has a short fuse and its a lot more apparent at night now Kai keeps waking up and joining u in our bed.<br />The saying is true "You don't know what you've got until you loose it" and perhaps you going away for the night will help him realize it, but then if your not happy you need to do best for you & Leo.<br />Like Lucy said you just need to sit and talk perhaps and have someone look after Leo so you can. <br />I'm always here for you if you wanna talk hun. Hugs xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17346645520169623041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-30654943202444106882012-12-29T08:46:33.252+00:002012-12-29T08:46:33.252+00:00Oh bless you. I would have done exactly the same t...Oh bless you. I would have done exactly the same thing if I was in that situation. I cannot and will not tolerate short tempers and aggressive/angry behaviour in front of my children. Children should respect their parents and not fear them, so if anything you also did Luke a favour by taking Leo (who lets be honest is far to little to understand) away and letting Luke cool off in private.<br />It sounds to me like you and Luke need to sit down and have a conversation about what is happening. If you want to really make a go of your relationship he needs to be coming to you with his troubles not someone else. Saying he's not ready to be a dad is a pointless statement: he has a child now so he has to be one whether he likes it or not, but it's up to him whether he is a good one or not.<br />I would also say that Christmas and the pressures of trying to be a picture perfect family for the holidays can get to people. So give yourselves a breather and see how you feel in the new year. Xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2978459861373615747.post-1128249694751255362012-12-28T23:58:20.166+00:002012-12-28T23:58:20.166+00:00I guess responding on a blog I will never be able ...I guess responding on a blog I will never be able to write properly what I want to. But, becoming a parent is the most difficult thing you can ever do. And as much as I will never let my OH know this I completely believe that a mother's instinct and bond will be in the majority of cases by far the stronger.<br />Your post reminds me a great deal of what my and my hubby have, and continue to contend with.<br />The only thing that remains when the situation has passed it that we do not spend enough time together as a couple. That we spend each night listening for the children crying, and our spare time is spent making things special for the little people.<br />The effort you both once put into making one relationship worked as changed beyond recognition. And now it's about trying to find everyone's place in a relationship of three.<br />It's tough, it's horrible, but more so, in my most realistic moments I do know this is the man I want to be with, that I can't imagine being with anyone else, and that (when he's not taking his bad mood out on the children) he is such a good dad.<br />Take some time out for you, and for you and him, and hopefully you'll know what you need to do.<br />xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05280116587173953049noreply@blogger.com