A year ago in July I found myself back in the world of work after taking 13 months off for maternity leave. I have spoken on many occasions about how I felt about returning to work, scared, anxious, excited, nervous, worried and guilty just to name a few of those feelings that were rushing through my body like a tsunami.
I know I cannot be the only parent in the world who has felt a mass array of different emotions about the return to work. For me it felt like it was the end of an era, that special year where I had only my beautiful boy to spend my days with. Everything else was just a million miles away, but it is surprising how quickly the time can fly when you are neck deep in nappies and the real world is anticipating your return.
Going back to work presents you with a whole new set of things to feel guilty about, the milestones you may miss. The smiles and laughs that are poised for someone else, the general day to day life that you have built together is turned up side down and given a vigorous shake.
Were you worried about going back to work after having children? Around 85% of mums have come forward to feeling like this, they felt nervous about their return to work. But a few simple acts can make all the difference to that first day back in the office…
Were you worried about going back to work after having children? Around 85% of mums have come forward to feeling like this, they felt nervous about their return to work. But a few simple acts can make all the difference to that first day back in the office…
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i absolutely hated returning to work after my first child (1 yr maternity) but with my second i took 2 years maternity and returning to work was even worse x
ReplyDeleteHated it! I felt lost.
ReplyDeleteWas one of the hardest things i had to do
ReplyDeleteI am due to go off in Feb but think ill only be off for 6 months :(
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ReplyDeleteNever had to take time off work for children, but i did for long term sickness for a while. Going back was terrifying, but satisfying
ReplyDeleteHaving to go back to work after maternity leave and leaving my little girl was truly devastating.
ReplyDeleteI hated my return to work, I only had 2 weeks off, which was annual leave not paternity leave. hated leaving my Wife and little baby.
ReplyDeletei enjoyed adult company again
ReplyDeleteI hated going back to work too :-(
ReplyDeletenot great but got to be done
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed going back to work , first baby was actually very difficult , reflux, colic, poor sleeper so on my 2 days at work I actually felt less stressed .
ReplyDeleteI was very nervous. Whilst I had been off the office had changed and I didn't go back to the same job.
ReplyDeleteI was worried how my son would cope without me as he was only 8 months at the time.
ReplyDeleteReally worried that I wouldn't be able to do job as well
ReplyDeleteBeing a mum is hard but worth it
ReplyDeleteNot great at all
ReplyDeletecouldn't wait the 3rd time round !
ReplyDeleteI felt apprehensive and guilty
ReplyDeleteMixed emotions but was very hard to tear myself away fro my daughter but glad of adult company
ReplyDeleteI didn't go back to work until my daughter was 3. We lived cheaply, and my partner was starting out in his career, so we moved often. It was easier for me to stay at home with her. I was certainly ready for some adult company, and my daughter was ready for company of others too. Hard work, but the right thing for us.
ReplyDeleteI was so, so ready to go back to work - my girl was 2 and 3 months. But now I'm back, I miss her so much. I miss my life before. Nearly a year later and I'm still unsure as to whether I made the right decision
ReplyDeleteTired!
ReplyDeleteI dreaded it! I follow as mummy24
ReplyDeleteAshleigh Allan
I've not returned!
ReplyDeleteI went back as soon as i could, otherwise the longer you leave it the worse it is and i think you can loose your confidence a little. I missed the adult company as well, work brings!
ReplyDeleteSad :(
ReplyDeletei felt really upset when i returned to work and missed my son terribly and also suffered guilt at times :(
ReplyDeletedreaded it! still don't want to be there but need the pennies
ReplyDeleteGood to get back to adult company and feeling like a normal person again!
ReplyDeleteguilty- so much so, I gave it up!
ReplyDeleteNot gone back yet as had to find another job but I am not looking forward to it its the missingv out on her doing things for the first time
ReplyDeleteNervous about leaving the little one. Was concerned about safety, as previously I had been there responsible for safety etc and doing my best. Now I wasn't there I was anxious with this experience, though feelings really mixed. As I was also trying to reassure myself that we had done our best to ensure all was well, and it was likely that everything was fine. Takes time to readjust.
ReplyDeleteRachel Craig
going back to work was hard but I am more than just a mum and my daughter was in the care of my mum which was lovely as they are so close now victoriahine@hotmail.co.uk
ReplyDeleteoh Nervous initially but also I believe a better mum for it
ReplyDeleteI felt petrified going back to work but after a few weeks it got easier
ReplyDeletequite nervous
ReplyDeleteenthusiastic but slightly stressed!
ReplyDeleteVery nervous! I'm quite an anxious person anyway but once I got there I was ok but anxious about what was going on at home!
ReplyDeletefollowing via gfc as angieh
ReplyDeleteI'm scared but will appreciate some adult talk!
ReplyDeletenot looking forward to it at all, dont want to be apart from him xxx
ReplyDeleteI haven't, I decided to stay home and I never regretted it x
ReplyDeleteI am a SAHM.
ReplyDeleteI haven't gone back yet!
ReplyDeleteI wasn't happy but needs must
ReplyDeleteNot gone yet!
ReplyDeleteIsabel O'Brien
@yyesidolikecake
Not gone yet!
ReplyDeleteIsabel O'Brien
@yyesidolikecake
I dreaded it, awful
ReplyDeleteI just felt so guilty at leaving my son with a childminder
ReplyDeleteI hated it
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed it-I knew my son had a great childminder and all the time we spent together was quality time
ReplyDeletemixed feelings - hated leaving my child and felt guilty, but loved having some adult conversation and brain stimulation x
ReplyDeleteI love working & it make me make the most of the time I do have with my son. I have no guilt because I have no choice financially...it's be a stay at home mum OR pay the mortgage...not both.
ReplyDeleteI returned when my young son started school :)
ReplyDeleteI hate it and I love it at the same time...
ReplyDeleteit's hard but it helps you provide for your children
ReplyDeleteSad but that's life!
ReplyDeleteHated it, but needs, needed
ReplyDeleteFollower vi gfc
ReplyDeleteAmazing!
ReplyDeleteExciting and balanced with home life.
ReplyDeleteMy friend hated it but I think she's got used to it now the children are older :)
ReplyDeleteI was a full time mum for years so I felt great getting back to work earning again and meeting people
ReplyDeleteHated every minute!
ReplyDeleteFollowing on GFC as Soozy Hall
ReplyDeleteI haven't had it yet but I dread it
ReplyDeleteA necessary evil
ReplyDeleteI dreaded it but I had a good support network so knew baby was ok while I was at work
ReplyDeleteI decided to start a business from home so I could be there for my kids & keep on top of looking after the house. Also i could arrange appointments when it suited me. This worked for me but being at home alot can drive you mad!
ReplyDeleteReally difficult, but in some ways it was nice to have a bit of 'me' back again. xx
ReplyDeleteI hated it
ReplyDeleteI dreaded it ... so I became freelance and worked from home ... its much harder and my day is really long - but I love every minute of my freedom
ReplyDeleteHated it!!
ReplyDeleteTrying to look for work after taking 10 years off to have and raise my 2 kids!! Finding it so hard to get out there as Ive no experience and there are very little jobs to be had!
ReplyDeleteive not returned :)
ReplyDeleteI didn't return till the youngest was 4, so it was OK, but only because I was only working school hours
ReplyDeletereturned at three months. big mistake
ReplyDeletetina edwards tina9stan@gmail.com
ReplyDeletei felt exhausted
ReplyDeleteReally hated it and knew I'd have soo much to do when I got home as I couldn't trust the ex to do anything
ReplyDeletehaven't gone back to work its a full time job looking after 3 kids
ReplyDeleteFollowing on GFC epricetemp at gmail.com
ReplyDeleteWas very gradual as working for myself from home and didn't really notice it because started at a couple of hours per week.
ReplyDeleteI didn't mind so much, part time so best of both worlds
ReplyDeleteit was hard leaving kids at first but gradually got into the swing of it
ReplyDeleteworking only part time as feel guilty leaving her to much
ReplyDeleteHappy. x
ReplyDeleteI had to return to work twice. Each time I felt excited going back and being challenged daily using my brain. But each time I missed my little men so much.
ReplyDeleteIve not returned yet
ReplyDeleteI hated it and gave up work again.
ReplyDeleteI haven't yet
ReplyDeleteI didn't go back!
ReplyDeleteI hated every minute of it, would much rather have stayed at home but could never afford it, and I still work full time many years later - don't know how I did it looking back
ReplyDeleteNot been there yet.
ReplyDeleteHated it, so decided to be a stay at home mum instead.
ReplyDeletei loved work but left because i wanted to be the one to raise my kids. after i had my son i went back to work for a while. was very nervous but was nice to get some time to myself. i then got pregnant with my daughter and stopped working again. im in the process of looking for a job now and feeling very nervous :) fingers crossed i here something soon :)
ReplyDeleteScared - but looked forward to getting into the swing of it again.
ReplyDeleteMy return to work (x2) was a little different as my pregnancies weren't successful. My first time I couldn't wait to go back, the second time I was dreading it. Of course, both times were fine as I've been working in the same office for 10 years and the people there are fab! x
ReplyDeleteI've never had to have time off for kids but I think I'd struggle!
ReplyDeletescared
ReplyDeleteexcited and a bit nervous
ReplyDeleteI was ready to go back to work for some adult company and conversation but my child was in the workplace nursery and I could go there during breaks so not complete separation, it got easier to leave longer between my visits as I got more engrossed in work
ReplyDeleteI didn't go back to work after having Jacob. He has to have lots of hospital appointments and my health is not great after my c-section so it was decided I would stay home to care for the wee boy. I do miss work sometimes, and being amongst adults.
ReplyDeletehated going back, but needed the money
ReplyDeleteI haven't, and am quite happy that way!
ReplyDeletethanks for the giveaway studownham@aol.com
ReplyDeleteive had to stay at home as no one to look after kids and childcare too expensive
ReplyDeleteWorried. Xx
ReplyDeleteFollowing through gfc as ellstara
ReplyDeletelove it!
ReplyDeleteFelt like a kid after the six weeks holiday, full of nerves.
ReplyDeleteHaven't gone yet
ReplyDeleteShaky - everything moves on and you've been left behind.
ReplyDeleteemma Thackery
ReplyDeleteemmathackery88@gmail.com
I had very mixed emotions, but it had to be done
ReplyDeleteFollowing on GFC laurastewardcomp
ReplyDeleteI was happy to go back to work as I feel a real sense of achievement & enjoy managing my team - I also appreciate fully the time I spend with my son.
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ReplyDeleteI felt sad going back to work, and still feel guilty most days. But..needs must! x
I hated it, I was working at the local council and no one would talk to me as they saw my maternity leave as one big holiday.
ReplyDeleteI missed my little boy but it was good to return to a normal adult enviornment
ReplyDeleteI felt so guilty and rushed to pick him up straight away, however, on the plus side, I had adult conversation again and felt like me!
ReplyDeleteNervous
ReplyDeleteI don't want to return to work
ReplyDeleteI hated it but is now nice to get away sometimes
ReplyDeleteI haven't yet - don't want to haha
ReplyDeleteI had very similar feelings to you but once your first week is over all the fears subside.
ReplyDeleteGutted
ReplyDeleteI am due to go back soon very nervous don't want to admit they are growing up
ReplyDeleteQuite good, I went back when my daughter was 4 months old and she has become a very sociable little girl due to nursery :)
ReplyDeletenot happy.
ReplyDeletethankfully i haven't had to yet x
ReplyDeletethankfully i didnt have to leave my babies when they were young to go back to work it would of been gut wrenching to leave them every day when they were so small and needed their mother
ReplyDeleteI hated going back to work, but needs must!
ReplyDeleteI didn't! But that was 10 years ago, now expecting again, but think I will look forward to returning this time...
ReplyDeleteKirsty Slow
ReplyDeleteIm going back on Saturday...Im really excited x
I dreaded it. The day seemed to drag, it was the longest day of my life
ReplyDeleteGuilty about leaving him
ReplyDeleteDreadful - I felt the best place for my daughter was with me and only I could give her the care she needed
ReplyDeleteGutted at leaving my beautiful blue eyed boy :)
ReplyDeleteI haven't returned to work yet, but when I do I will feel really apprehensive, and worried, but in another sense I cant wait either!
ReplyDeleteI hated the thought of returning to work - for a week before hand i found myself getting nervous and anxious and the night before, i cried my eyes out. Luckily the thought of returning was worse than the real thing. Although its a struggle to juggle everything, i enjoy the chat and office banter and have a new appreciation for how mums juggle everything once little ones come into your life.
ReplyDeleteVery mixed emotions. I was so sad to be leaving my little one with mum, but looked forward to mixing again with grown ups.
ReplyDeleteI don't have children of my own but I can imagine how hard it must be...We have just had a girl return to work after a year of maternity leave and she found it really hard. She said that it was so hard to drop him off with family or at daycare and walk away. On the other hand she did say that it was nice to be around adults again and have a normal conversation without having to watch what he was doing.
ReplyDeletenervous, and didn't want to leave her at nursery. It did my daughter good though
ReplyDeleteI expected it to be easier 2nd time around but it was actually harder. More nerve wracking and less confidence. After a few weeks felt settled in.
ReplyDeletedecided not to at the last minute
ReplyDeleteI only returned afterward being told I would have to have to repay some extra maternity money I was given, but I'm now glad I did.
ReplyDeleteKel
very scary my son is only 2 and im very nervous but i know he'l be fine and it's the right thing to do
ReplyDeleteI went back to work after 7 months as I missed it!
ReplyDeleteI was lucky that when i went back my mum was looking after my boys - it makes a difference if you have confidence in your childcare
ReplyDeleteI'm still a SAHM but I'm not looking forward to returning to work, I just find it so daunting.
ReplyDeletefelt guilty - but couldn't afford to stay home :(
ReplyDeleteI felt that I had to be more than a mum, but walked around like I had a limb missing, it was very hard
ReplyDeleteRelieved in one way and a little guilty too.
ReplyDeleteIt was hard, however you have to do it .
ReplyDeleteHated it. Went back after 2 virtually consecutive maternity leaves (I was actually already pregnant when I returned after having Melody). I still hate it, even though it's only part time.
ReplyDeleteFollowing via GFC. Linda Hobbis lindahobbis38@hotmail.co.uk
ReplyDeleteHaven't gone back to work yet and am dreading it.
ReplyDeletecurrently pregnant so haven't gone back yet
ReplyDeleteI found it difficult to juggle work and home life
ReplyDeletei felt preoccupied about my baby
ReplyDeleteNervous!
ReplyDeleteI hated returning to work and it was so hard leaving my daughter with someone else to watch.
ReplyDeletei hated going back! still hating it!
ReplyDeletei havnt yet had to go back as im currently 33weeks, nervous and think il be quite upset about leaving baby once the time comes though
ReplyDeleteI was a bit anxious about her being in nursery one of the days I work but happy to get my brain working fully and have some grown up company again (and I get to go to the loo on my own!)
ReplyDeletehiro1982@hotmail.co.uk
ReplyDeletealways felt guilty
ReplyDeleteHated it, felt like you'd lost a limb. Would have loved to have been able to stay at home
ReplyDeleteWell, I preferred being at home...
ReplyDeleteStressed.
ReplyDeleteHated it!
ReplyDeletei hated it
ReplyDeleteWhen I returned back to work after the first 2 children it was awful I was full time and by the time I collected them and gave them tea it was bed time. When we had our 3rd we agreed I would become a SAHM.
ReplyDeleteRubbish!
ReplyDeleteIve just had a month off from holiday and that was like being flogged!
ReplyDeleteI felt gutted your torn nither giving your all at work or at home
ReplyDeleteEasier than being at home!
ReplyDeleteI was lucky enough to have been able to finish work, so didn't have the upset of leaving my little one x
ReplyDeleteI am due to go off in Feb but think ill only be off for 6 months :(
ReplyDeleteVery anxious and stressed!
ReplyDeletemissed my little one so much had to keep phoning the nursery to check she was ok!!
ReplyDeleteFirst time round I was very nervous as my son was only 6 weeks old (the days when you only got 12 weeks off). Second time round I hadn't worked since my son was 16 mths old and returned when my daughter was 9mths....I was much more geared up and only worked 100 metres from home so was ok with it.
ReplyDeletehated it first time round so much so that ive decided to wait this time till my little one are at school full time, its a struggle but worth it, all 3 boys love me being at home!
ReplyDeleteI'm feeling really nervous about it, but I found a good childminder so it takes away some of the nerves! x
ReplyDeleteOnly 9 weeks yet, so not really thinking about it
ReplyDelete@oneisjamie
Excited but apprehensive although I don't know why I was working at home doing odd bits
ReplyDeleteI've never had any children but I have had to return to work after being widowed, twice. It was truly awful.
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing how many people have the hump with you when you've been off for a couple of months through no fault of your own, but before you left, they were full of sympathy, take as much time as you need & all that.
I was lucky enough to go back part time so it eased me back in.
ReplyDeleteHated it was tired and had Mummy brain couldn't even remember codes to get in work!
ReplyDeleteI was happy to be back and have not regretted it but I do only work 4 days a week.
ReplyDeleteIt was very hard
ReplyDeleteIt was really hard
ReplyDeleteMy wife did work for a little while, but depending on your job it can be more stress than it's worth!
ReplyDeleteReally difficult in fact I hated it and felt so guilty!
ReplyDeleteI loved being with my two children, but at the same time, I couldn't wait to get back to work. I think it's crucial to get back into the work force early on. When you have a mortgage to pay and you want to provide the best a child can get, not material things, just plenty of food, clothing, good education etc. The current government has pursued policies that encourage more parents of young children to enter the workplace and put the demands of their careers before the needs of their children. It would be foolish not to keep your foot in the door regarding your career: nearly half of all mums will end up as single parents, and with the gender pay gap still more than 12 per cent, if you let your skills lapse and don’t go to work at all in your children’s early years, this gap widens even further. sheils_glass@hotmail.com
ReplyDeletePositive as I enjoy the best of both worlds and want the best for my children so need to earn the pennies. I also think its a good example to you children and encourages children to be more social by leaving mummy for a few hours each day!
ReplyDeleteI'm dreading the thought, I feel pregnant very quickly after my first. Baby 2 due in January, don't know how I'm going to cope going back when I've got 2 little angels at home
ReplyDeleteI dreaded it - but it was made easier by my daughter loving nursery
ReplyDeleteI had equal parts dread and excitement. It was nice to use my brain again and get back to some normality.
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